I know we’ve all seen Twitter comments of people– especially MEN!– calling women catfishes and liars for only posting pictures from the waist up.
While I completely disagree with this, and hate that this literally only comes down to bigger women, it got me thinking, why do we feel more comfortable posting pictures of our faces and from the waist up, but hesitate on pictures of our full body’s?
I know that back in the day I used to do this too. I would only take selfies, and if someone took my picture I would always sit or stand to the side to make myself look smaller.
Why was I hiding myself? I think it really came down to not wanting to invite people to make negative comments on my body.
As you all are slight aware of, I was bullied all throughout elementary and some of middle school, which took a huge toll on my self-esteem and body image.
I felt like I was unworthy because my body was bigger than that other kids and they would say things that backed up those thoughts that they caused to even be put in my head so why would I show others the same.
I feel like I wanted to be a different me on social media. I wanted validation that I was beautiful like my family was telling me, but I didn’t want it from them. I wanted to be accepted by the same people who were bullying me. That sucks.
Was I cute? Did I think I was pretty? Yeah, in the face. So that’s what I posted for the world to see.
I wouldn’t post anything unflattering and that lasted up until my junior year of high school. I decided the summer going into my junior year that I was gonna love myself. I was tired of fighting myself and trying to put on this facade that I was confident and that I loved myself. It was time to start practicing what I preached.
So I posted one of my first full body pictures. I started getting into makeup because when I looked good I felt good. I started to transition my hair during the end of my junior year to natural because I wanted to love every part of myself. I was working out to be healthier–I still kinda wanted to lose weight, but I had multiple motivations.
I just started to take better care of myself and especially my mental health.
And from that one step, I’ve gotten to where I am now. And like they say self love is a journey, not a race.
I still have bad days where sometimes I feel low, but I know how to not let that one moment ruin all the progress I’ve made in the past 4 years.
There are still times when I take pictures– for instagram or even for the blog– and I go through them and i’m like “no this can’t be posted you can see too much of my belly in this” and I have to stop that type of thinking right there.
Cause regardless, I look damn good. And if the picture is cute it’s getting posted. End of.
Basically, It ain’t worth it. Post what you wanna post.
If you look good and you think you look good, then you look good. Show some skin if you want, let me see the whole outfit. It’s 2019. We love ourselves now.
Like always, let me know what you beauties think and if you’ve been through something similar or just wanna share your opinion on the topic leave me a comment or hit me up on social media!
Do You Boo x.
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